Chapter LXXX. An ensample of the Saint against too great intimacy [with women]

114. It happened once, when S. Francis was on his way to Bevagna, that he was unable to reach the place, being weak from fasting. His companion sent a messenger to a certain spiritual lady to ask humbly for bread and wine for the holy man. As soon as she heard of his need, she ran to him with her daughter (a virgin consecrated to God), bringing what was necessary. After the Saint had been refreshed and was somewhat recovered, he in his turn refreshed the mother and daughter with the Word of God; but, though he preached to them, he looked at neither in the face. As they withdrew, his companion said to him: "Brother, why didst thou not look at the holy virgin who came to thee with so much devotion? "He answered: "Who should not fear to look upon a bride of Christ? But if one can preach with the eyes and the face, she may. have looked at me though I did not see her."

And many times in speaking of this matter he declared that all talk with women is worthless except only in the way of confession or the very brief admonition that is customary. For he said: "What business has a Lesser Brother to transact with a woman unless when she makes religious request for holy penance or for advice as to a better life?"